tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post2031092970395484202..comments2023-05-14T16:49:22.490+01:00Comments on All The King's Horses: Things Social Workers Investigating Possible Abuse Need to KnowPuzzled Hathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-45209151775139109162012-02-29T04:48:05.809+00:002012-02-29T04:48:05.809+00:00Your blog is simply fabulous. I have seen and trie...Your blog is simply fabulous. I have seen and tried to read through many and I just lose interest. I appreciate them and understand their missions, but with your writings, i truly connect. thank you for the invaluable resources and information and general reminders to stay focused.<br />I feel kindred to you. Here is my blog- it is a series of interwoven stories about my childhood abuse. i am trying to raise awareness and give words to the horrific and specific things that happen in the lives of abused children and in the survival as adults and all of the madness in between. Thank you for your courageous work.<br />http://getthis.cairngrow.net/<br />Also, may I put your blog on my blog list? :) Cairn GrowCairn Growhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00218078591640746388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-35332402039884561492011-08-13T13:26:44.543+01:002011-08-13T13:26:44.543+01:00Hi, Totally relate to what you all say. Not just ...Hi, Totally relate to what you all say. Not just social workers either, but GP's, Teachers, well...anyone will a duty of care for a child really...I wouldn't have minded if ANYONE had noticed.Rainbownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-57443427153263098442011-06-10T03:54:45.562+01:002011-06-10T03:54:45.562+01:00Thanks all of you for all of your comments. I'...Thanks all of you for all of your comments. I'm glad my post was helpful. It seems as though a lot of us have had similar experiences, which makes me sad because of all the missed opportunities for social workers etc. to have done something to help us.<br /><br />Gail, you're more than welcome to repost this post on your blog - I'd be honoured! :)Puzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-1339288159386527572011-05-16T19:35:49.943+01:002011-05-16T19:35:49.943+01:00This is a wonderful, well-thought out and well-wri...This is a wonderful, well-thought out and well-written post. Thanks for sharing this important information to raise awareness. And thanks for being a part of The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse.Marj aka Thriverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06825698906631474866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-18846200328926945872011-04-25T16:24:44.157+01:002011-04-25T16:24:44.157+01:00I admire your bravery for speaking out to deliver ...I admire your bravery for speaking out to deliver this important message, "pay attention, pay attention, and then turn around and pay attention again! Can you feel it? I'm sending you a hug because I care!Faithhttp://www.survivingwithfaith.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-17238104898172596142011-04-25T01:16:22.707+01:002011-04-25T01:16:22.707+01:00I am glad that you shared this with Blog Carnival...I am glad that you shared this with Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. Everyone needs to know this information about how children will probably react when asked if they are being abused. Thank you for sharing.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-34271980777966530172011-04-24T15:55:07.330+01:002011-04-24T15:55:07.330+01:00This is so well written and powerful. I hope that...This is so well written and powerful. I hope that not only Social Workers, but other adults that work with children will listen to your words!Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15897067084988651970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-30188214944825759212011-04-24T02:19:29.324+01:002011-04-24T02:19:29.324+01:00Thank you for writing this. You did a great job co...Thank you for writing this. You did a great job conveying this important information. I related so much. I also wrote a blog post about my experience of people trying to help, but not knowing what to do. There were times when I was a child that people said they almost called, but they never did make that call for outside help. They just hoped everything would turn out alright, but it was not alright. I know they tried their best and just didn't know what to do. It mattered to me that they at least tried to help. A lot of social workers don't know how to hear kids, so there is often a need for different social workers to become involved. I just hope people are becoming more educated now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-90488817073842701792011-04-23T22:53:52.523+01:002011-04-23T22:53:52.523+01:00Thank you. Just thank you.Thank you. Just thank you.Chrysalishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987538360359912475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-14768467237192911272011-04-23T22:31:45.836+01:002011-04-23T22:31:45.836+01:00Thank you for your post! I particularly related to...Thank you for your post! I particularly related to your sentence..."I begged silently with all of my heart that they would 'hear' my voice and that they would help us.''<br /><br />I also begged silently from my shame filled and swollen heart to be heard, for someone, anyone to help me and my siblings also. Teachers, doctors, relatives, neighbours....no-one heard my silent screams. If only ONE person had...<br /><br />Would love to repost this on my blog if okay.Gail https://www.blogger.com/profile/01722697365989994262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-24393933455775477922011-04-23T19:52:07.029+01:002011-04-23T19:52:07.029+01:00Thank you so much for sharing this with the Blog C...Thank you so much for sharing this with the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse! This is what speaking out is all about, not just telling our stories (which is SO important) but also educating and teaching, that is powerful. <br /><br />I never told anyone about the abuse when I was a child, but there were "signs". I remember that once a teacher tried to raise the conversation with my parents that she was concerned, but my family laughed it off (not realizing that even though at home I was acting the same way I always had, in school and away from home, I was retreating into myself and having problems that were noticeable to people outside of my family). Once I was an adult, and at the place where I was no longer in denial about the abuse, I remembered that 'family joke' about the teacher who was concerned about me....and I felt thankful that she noticed. Of course, I wish she would have reported it, but just for my own self, it was somehow comforting for me to know that back then there was at least one person who looked at me and could see, even just a bit, through the facade I put up and knew that there was something wrong.Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-55239572788242710972011-04-17T01:39:51.152+01:002011-04-17T01:39:51.152+01:00I"m glad you're speaking now...your words...I"m glad you're speaking now...your words are so right on. No one helped me or my sister either. Relatives now say they knew but didn't want to get involved. What you wrote here is what professionals need to learn before they go investigate. Stay strong okay....Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-18080034595964468402011-04-15T07:20:01.670+01:002011-04-15T07:20:01.670+01:00I wanted to stop by and say what a wonderful post ...I wanted to stop by and say what a wonderful post this was ... and how honoured I am that you came and posted it as a guest on my blog. I'm just so sorry that you had to go through what you did, and that no adults in your past were brave enough to actually ask you! :(<br /><br />I hope between us all, we can get this information out to those who most need to hear it!Susannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04706238776151154062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-18853347781184776752011-04-15T04:23:30.052+01:002011-04-15T04:23:30.052+01:00Hi Sarah,
Thanks for your kind words... and I woul...Hi Sarah,<br />Thanks for your kind words... and I would be so honoured to share this on your blog as a guest post! :) I actually was asked to post it on another blog as a guest post tonight, so it's all ready to go. I think the more people that discuss these things the better, because maybe that way, the more people who need to know will hear it!<br /><br />PH xPuzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-42314768335944590802011-04-15T04:08:39.115+01:002011-04-15T04:08:39.115+01:00Though I'm not a survivor of child abuse, this...Though I'm not a survivor of child abuse, this really hits hard and I'm sorry that no one ever listened. I can only imagine how hard it was and I'm truly amazed by your courage to speak out. This was so well written and something that should definitely be discussed. I was wondering if you would like to share this on my blog as a guest post? I think this would be really great to get out there and I would love to feature it. Let me know!<br /><br />Take care,<br /><br />SarahSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09932759061707917981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-30763544988002078152011-04-14T19:42:34.411+01:002011-04-14T19:42:34.411+01:00Hi Anonymous :) I can really relate to what you ju...Hi Anonymous :) I can really relate to what you just said. In the end, when you realise that no-one is listening, it's much easier to just keep silent. The only thing that kept me trying to tell was that I had younger siblings I was desperate to protect. I'm sorry you suffered the consequences of telling. I understand only too well what that's like. You deserved to be listened to and I'm sorry you weren't. <br /><br />PH xPuzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-75337083239746223622011-04-14T19:37:14.122+01:002011-04-14T19:37:14.122+01:00i tried and tried 2 tell in my own way ......... b...i tried and tried 2 tell in my own way ......... but no one ever listened ....... and there was ALWAYS consequenses ........ silence was as easier road 2 take .......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-70176769652254830332011-04-14T19:37:11.221+01:002011-04-14T19:37:11.221+01:00Hi Patricia, I'm really sorry no-one ever aske...Hi Patricia, I'm really sorry no-one ever asked you. I think sometimes people expect abused kids to just come out and say whats happening. They might try to, in their own way but I don't think people generally are listening in the kinds of ways that they need to in order to hear those cries for help. <br /><br />Hi Mystic_Mom! Glad to meet you! :) I'm sorry no-one listened to you either. I guess part of the problem may have been that people weren't as aware of abuse a few years ago. But I also think that sometimes the professionals involved in investigating suspected abuse cases don't really know how to listen properly. Speech isn't the only form of communication and I know I tried to communicate in other ways but no-one seemed to be listening properly. At least now we can speak up and maybe help raise awareness so the next generation is heard more easily!<br /><br />Hi Darlene! I'm glad you found my blog helpful - thank you so much for sharing it. :) You're right - those of us who were not heard when we were going through it... we know only too well what was missed. I hope that more of us will speak up and maybe help change the way professionals approach investigations, and more importantly how they listen to the children involved.Puzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-925986580300939522011-04-14T19:15:55.612+01:002011-04-14T19:15:55.612+01:00This is really great information and so necessary ...This is really great information and so necessary in the professional community as there is such a shortage of information from the ones that it happened to. We are the one's that know what was missed. I am really glad that I found your blog and your work today and I will also be sharing it with my community. <br />DarleneDarlene Ouimethttp://www.emergingfrombroken.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-50053582405955148662011-04-14T17:54:27.248+01:002011-04-14T17:54:27.248+01:00Well written and thoughtful, thank you! If anyone...Well written and thoughtful, thank you! If anyone had listened I think things for me would have been very different. Silent no more!Mystic_Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00099062213372011260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-1011033680702291402011-04-14T17:29:11.324+01:002011-04-14T17:29:11.324+01:00Thank for sharing this information. I always thou...Thank for sharing this information. I always thought if someone asked that I would have told them about the incest. Several people had the opportunity but no one ever asked.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.com