tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post2160135193277578321..comments2023-05-14T16:49:22.490+01:00Comments on All The King's Horses: The Courage to Use Words...Puzzled Hathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-90737186354648436392011-08-13T13:33:29.254+01:002011-08-13T13:33:29.254+01:00I have struggled with some of the words you mentio...I have struggled with some of the words you mention, but I still struggle now with what would seem to be much more 'minor' words. So whith gritted teeth...<br />When playing a wind instrument, the finger positions are known as *fingering*<br /><br />The word *Grandpa* is banned from my house, and yet still my own mother encouraged my kids to call someone that word! According to her I'm just being stupid! <br /><br />There are others, but they are probably the worst as far as 'minor' go.Rainbownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-45018857737561848972011-04-13T17:36:57.526+01:002011-04-13T17:36:57.526+01:00Victim is a hard word too Susannah! I think I find...Victim is a hard word too Susannah! I think I find that one hard because it has such negative connotations.<br /><br />Hi Sarah, thanks for your encouragement - I can't tell you how much I needed that! :) No more denial is such a brave way to go forward, but so needed too! It's not easy though!<br /><br />Thanks Leslie! I'm glad my post helped you.<br /><br />Hi Just Be Real! Shame can be incredibly powerful can't it? I think sometimes if we could somehow get rid of the shame and the fear, the silencing wouldn't have nearly so much of a hold. <br /><br />Hi Kim! :) I think it's a good way to try and see courage because it's so easy to think that being courageous means to do something by not being afraid but really it's the opposite of that...Puzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-83857989306635505432011-04-01T01:45:03.659+01:002011-04-01T01:45:03.659+01:00I love how you describe courage....how true!!I love how you describe courage....how true!!Kimhttp://k-perfect.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-35717491187157411372011-03-27T21:47:14.754+01:002011-03-27T21:47:14.754+01:00What a powerful post! A lot of shame certainly go...What a powerful post! A lot of shame certainly goes with those words and their actions. Appreciate you sharing. Blessings.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-84385982285406925052011-03-26T12:24:45.524+00:002011-03-26T12:24:45.524+00:00Great post, you really got me thinking about words...Great post, you really got me thinking about words I use and DON'T use. Because I love writing I think about words all the time, but your post opened a different way of looking at them. Thanks!<br /><br />I love your Puzzle Hat, too. :)Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15897067084988651970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-59709976648029646402011-03-04T15:48:49.379+00:002011-03-04T15:48:49.379+00:00Hi PH...stopped back to say hi...stay strong....an...Hi PH...stopped back to say hi...stay strong....and know you're not alone okay. Your words...your thoughts encourage. Reading them again....reminds me how much we're all so much the same....No more denial....I promise myself.Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-61201240280222529722011-02-28T15:04:29.737+00:002011-02-28T15:04:29.737+00:00I think this is a beautiful & powerful post, a...I think this is a beautiful & powerful post, and you should be really proud of yourself hon!! So many survivors can't even find the words to say what happened to them - maybe people reading this post will get just a little more courage to do the same, to help them tell, get help, heal. :)<br /><br />I still can't see myself as ever having been a victim. So I guess that's MY word I usually avoid like the plague if trying to describe me or my life.Susannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04706238776151154062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-26475804419435602132011-02-24T14:02:32.260+00:002011-02-24T14:02:32.260+00:00I'm glad to have connected with you too Sarah....I'm glad to have connected with you too Sarah. :) Your words are so encouraging and I appreciate them! <br /><br />Denial is one of those things that I think all of us survivors battle with and it can be so difficult to get past. I still can't say the words I've written here - not in a personal context. Hopefully one day I will but for now, writing them is a good step I think. :)Puzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-23400795169255311292011-02-24T13:37:53.654+00:002011-02-24T13:37:53.654+00:00what a powerful post...You're so right that de...what a powerful post...You're so right that denial is huge...and saying the word rape...I too couldn't do it for a long time. I still hate that word. It conjures up the shame and powerlessness I felt. Stay strong okay....I'm glad to have connected with you. ☺Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-7313009538656313502011-02-24T07:51:01.596+00:002011-02-24T07:51:01.596+00:00Thanks for stopping by Davina, and for the follow ...Thanks for stopping by Davina, and for the follow - hope to see you around too! :) Nice to meet you.<br /><br />It's definitely something to think about isn't it! I've avoided it for a long time really but I'm hoping that by writing about it a bit it'll help both me and my readers.Puzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-80692472848438011672011-02-24T07:20:53.775+00:002011-02-24T07:20:53.775+00:00I still struggle with some of these words, but not...I still struggle with some of these words, but not with others (that surprise even me). I need to think about this more...<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by my blog, Puzzle! *smile* I hope to see you around. I'm following your blog, now.Davinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06841813888180476460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-43095374091467764662011-02-24T06:21:41.474+00:002011-02-24T06:21:41.474+00:00Yes, you're right about that. It's funny h...Yes, you're right about that. It's funny how just a simple word can be so terrifying, isn't it? <br /><br />xxPuzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-32430163306767124922011-02-24T05:55:12.716+00:002011-02-24T05:55:12.716+00:00I can understand about your not wanting to go near...I can understand about your not wanting to go near the word incest. I can't remember the first time that I heard the word and understood what it meant. I called it sexual abuse long before I could call it incest. Incest made it too personal, too real.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-92105145437464019032011-02-24T03:56:17.284+00:002011-02-24T03:56:17.284+00:00You're welcome. :)
I actually felt really vul...You're welcome. :)<br /><br />I actually felt really vulnerable posting this and even considered deleting it haha! <br /><br />I'm sorry for what you've been through. I understand how confusing it can be - I think our abusers are very clever at warping the truth and making it difficult to see things for what they were. <br /><br />Incest is one of those words I can't seem to go near. It feels too big.Puzzled Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530808432228830850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8166408364973877733.post-33820626969724253162011-02-23T07:22:42.945+00:002011-02-23T07:22:42.945+00:00Rape was a word that I had difficulty calling the ...Rape was a word that I had difficulty calling the incest that happened to me as a child. I always thought of rape as violent. I didn't see the sexual abuse by my dad and an uncle as rape. I didn't see that I was forced to do anything. In counceling, I was told that it was rape. It was not an act that I caused to happen to me or that I asked for. It was without my permission. Even if I had said yes, I was a child who wanted to feel loved by the adults in my life. Thanks for writing and sharing this post.Patricia Singletonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14114250171020836470noreply@blogger.com